As I sit here going through the blog posts I have written, I had an epiphany I would like to share with you. I believe this could be the most important blog I will write. So if you are truly interested in creating your future as you feel it should be…
Grab a latte or an ice tea or whatever your favorite (non-alcoholic) drink is, have a seat in your most comfy chair, settle in for a serious preponderance of an extremely thought-provoking and potentially life-changing conversation.
The Way Things Are Done “Normally“
Honestly, I believe it’s not our fault we turn out the way we do. With a skill set designed to create a mundane and complicated life, filled with strife and struggle – who can blame the student. We are a result of the life lessons we are taught before we have a choice.
Our thought processes are formed based on what information we are given or shown from our caretakers. They do it this way because it is how they were taught.
We are introduced to the styles of clothing we wear, what colors we wear, what we eat and what we believe about life. – We are given our food – our clothes – our toys. Even our friends as we grow are dictated by where we live, who our parents know and hang out with, fellow employees/acquaintances, relatives, and neighbors. The children of our parents’ friends become our friends because they are who we are exposed to.
As humans, we need this initial exposure and teaching. We are not like animals who are born and instinctively know how to hunt for food.
There does come a point when we have free will and the right to make choices for our own lives. That day is today. Today we move away from normal. Today we begin to build OUR dreams. Today is the first day of the rest of our lives! Today is a day of discovery when we realize that we are infinite, a child of the universe, capable of anything we apply our selves to with diligence and dedication.
THE DEFINITION OF NORMAL
In search of all things normal, I came up with some interesting phrases. What I found was an unfortunate description of how people all over the world are molded from birth.
I am not going to post a bunch of links to support my findings. You can do the research yourself, which I highly recommend anyway. We tend to believe lots of information posted throughout the World Wide Web without doing any research which is a bad habit as it is simply taking information for granted without any verification. So, please – verify.
I researched three dictionaries from online sources. They were Wiki/Wiki thesaurus/ and a British dictionary.
Following are a list of words used to describe ‘normal’:
Noun: conforming to the standard or common type, usual, the average or mean, the standard or type.
Thesaurus: natural, orderly, ordinary, traditional, typical, average, commonplace, general, run-of-the-mill, unexceptional.
Psychological definition: free from mental disorder
Is This Where You Want To Be?
I did that research a long time ago and searched it again for the sake of this post. Definitions change every day it seems.
For the longest time, I believed that being considered ‘normal’ was a good thing. It was then, over twenty years ago, I decided that being ‘normal’ was not a category I wanted to belong in. In fact, I decided that if I am going to belong in any category, I wanted it to be the ‘me’ category, my determination, my success, my joy, my creation, my life.
I think the part of ‘normal’ that bothered me the most was ‘conforming to the standard or common type‘. Thinking about what that meant and how that affected my life, I woke up.
Not only did I not want to be ‘normal’, I did not want to be any of the other things ‘normal’ represented such as ‘average, commonplace, regular, and ordinary’.
If I have been told by 10 people consistently for years that I am normal, I will believe it. Everyone will believe it. First is the process of desensitization where we become familiar with whatever information is being presented to us. Secondly, is the process of acceptance where we believe what we are being told simply because we are hearing it everywhere. Thirdly, is acceptance. This is also the process of propoganda which we are constanly being barraged with from the media and political sources to keep us in the dark or sway us in a particular direction. Along with acceptance comes conformity. This is where we believe what we are told and we live our lives accordingly. We live our lives being or working toward being ‘normal’.
Too Many People Alone In A Crowd
After considering the level of happiness being achieved by many folks in the struggle to live a normal life, myself included – it seemed to me that it is a way of holding people back. Consider this; if we are raised to believe that being normal is a rightous and good way to be, when we can look at our lives and confirm that we are in fact normal, we can relaxe and simply continue doing what we are doing because we have arrived, we have succeeded, we are right where we are suppose to be – ‘Normal’.
Consider this. If there is a population of 325 million people in the United States and of those people 25 million are rich, either through inheritance or hard work, that means that the other 300 million must be normal. Normal described as ‘typical’ could represent 300 million Americans as overworked and underpaid.
These two groups of people – 25 Milllion People and 300 million people are filled with normal people. However, what is normal for one group of people may not be normal for another group of people. For instance, a wealthy family may get up in the morning and sit at a breakfast table and have a chef or other servants prepare and serve their meal. For some wealthy folk – that is normal.
A poverty stricken group of people may wake up in the morning, brush the snow off their cardboard cave on some back street, pull themselves out into the cold and wander down the street to the soup kitchen where they might be able to grab a hot cup of coffee and maybe something to eat. Within a homeless group, this is normal/typical.
So, honestly and I mean lets be real here. Is there such a thing as normal? Do we live our lives with blinders on to the truth about life?
I do not believe there is such a thing as ‘normal’. How can one word be used to describe such an diversely unrelated group of people and/or circumstances?
But I digress.
I decided that I would decide who and what I am for myself. This is an important step for anyone to succeed in any area of life. No one can move forward beyond the norm unless you are willing to recreate yourself. Become greater than the ‘norm’. Become greater than ‘average’. Become more than ‘common’.
It is simple! We all have been told to comply, maintain, be productive, go with the flo, don’t make waves, don’t stand out, don’t draw attention. I do not see any success in this process. Bill Gates is certainly not ‘normal‘. He was once just a child who’s parents jumped for joy when he went pee-pee in the toilet.
He went against the ‘normal’ rules and stood out. When he was hanging out in garages, building his first computer, do you think folks looked at him and said
“That is just great! Billy is going to create one of the worlds categorically first and most profound pieces of technology that will be in nearly every persons home in the civilized world AND become the worlds most wealthy man!“
Or do you think they said “That kid hangs out in the garage all the time talking about some cockamamie story about cyberspace. He is a bit off his rocker!” I choose the latter of the two.
“Well, Look at him now. He is worth more money than God – figuratively speaking. Look at anyone who is extremely successful – aside from those born with a silver spoon in their mouth as they don’t count, they are groomed to be successful on levels most people work their butts off to obtain and most times never get there. Not to mention they have the financial resources to pay others to make them successful and it is mostly what they do. Those that are very successful have walked a different path, thought outside the box and mostly work for themselves – not other people.
My point is in order for us to not be ‘normal’, we must believe in ourselves, believe that we are not like everyone else – not like ANYONE ELSE. We must see ourselves as an individual capable of thinking for ourselves and making decisions based on what we want for our lives, not what someone else wants for us or from us.
What ‘Normal’ Has Done To My Attitude
I realize this blog must sound like a big sell. And that is partially correct. There is a reason for this explanation of normal. I am an online marketer. With the internet being such a prominent part of everyone’s life – and it is only becoming more entwined in our lives daily – it only makes sense to be a part of it.
When I think of who I want to read this article, a normal person does not come to mind. This is not for normal people. It is for people who know they can achieve whatever they set their mind to. For those who would not allow outside influences to determine their level of success. I want someone to read this, sign up for Wealthy Affiliate and work it so one day, not so long down the road, I will get an email or a message or a comment on a post I write saying that making the choice to join WA has changed their life for the better in ways they couldn’t have imagined upon initially joining. That is absolutely the probablity for those who make a committment to succeed in Wealthy Affiliate. NO LIE! NO BS! Bottom line is that level of success is completely possible for anyone. Period!
Eventually, if you are not tightly entwined with the internet, you will be left behind as the internet is not going to disappear one day. It is here to stay and everything is moving to the internet.
Now you can be on the internet on your cell phone. Cell phone – now there is a whole other story! The internet is everywhere. It is accessible from just about anywhere. Today, there are people doing business with someone in China while sipping coffee with friends at Starbucks. There are people gaming with people across the world in games like World of Warcraft and Gears of War, The Sims and Fallout Las Vegas. It truly is the internet of all things.
I can order pizza for delivery on the internet – and do. I can do pretty much anything on the internet. We can get information on any subject we can think of. We work on the web, buy on the web, sell on the web, keep in touch, blog, learn, game and so much more. It is the internet of all things.
What Being Normal Doesn’t Look Like
I am an Affiliate for a training program called ‘Wealthy Affiliate’. When I began with WA, it was to create my own prosperity, to determine my own hours and increase my overall worth so I could be in control of all aspects of my life.
However, I must admit that my presence here on the internet and my experience with Wealthy Affiliate, my reasons for doing this have become so much more. My business in WA IS to continue to create my own personal wealth and prosperity and live the life I want to live. Since joining Wealthy Affiliate, I have learned that there are so many people out there searching for something better.
I am not saying that this is right for everyone. Nothing is right for everyone. What I am saying is if there is a void, something missing, if you feel you are living your life to make a paycheck and at the end of the day, missing out on living because you are working so long and hard to just pay the bills, this is an option.
This is a way for you to change your stars.
Anyone can do it. And, honestly – I would absolutely love to see everyone live the life they want and achieve their dreams. Afterall, isnt’t that the whole purpose for life?
I am going to share some VERY personal stuff here. You see, I come from a very dysfunctional family background as I am sure so many of us do. Both Parents were alcoholics and abusive. I am also a survivor of childhood sexual abuse which can seriously alter negatively one’s self-image. So, learning to grow away from the negativity and self-image I grew up with was a battle.
Not only did I consider myself all those terms used to describe ‘normal’, I considered myself much less than that. Unlovable and unworthy are two places I battled to rise from.
Today, I have completed my Bachelors Degree as well as my Master’s Degree. Something twenty years ago I could not have seen as even a consideration, let alone an achievement. I have come a long way, baby!
That is what discovering the definition of normal did for me. It was as simple as making the decision to follow MY dream, MY choices. I decided that as long as I had breath and a brain, I could work diligently to ‘change my stars’ (from ‘A Knights Tale’ starring Keith Ledger).
I tell you now, it was no easy task to complete my education. I dropped out of school while in the 7th grade. Without any more education, I received my GED without any formal classes and went straight to college. I had no math beyond fractions or any of the S.T.E.M. courses beyond that level. I assure you, the GED did not come close to prepare me for college some 25 years later.
I tell you this as an example of the proof that anyone can change their stars. All you have to do is decide to do it and follow through. I am not saying it is easy. All success is earned through hard work. This kind of work is working smarter – not harder!
Normal has changed my attitude towards most things in my life. I would rather reap the fruits of my hard work then to have some company reap the fruits of my hard work while I struggle from paycheck to paycheck. Just makes sense to me.
Don’t Except NORMAL
Baby steps. One foot in front of the other. One step at a time. That is how it gets done.
This is the part where I tell you to join Wealthy Affiliate. So consider yourself told.
I am however, going to take this one step further. Yes, I want you to join Wealthy Affiliate. If you are here, reading this blog, you are interested in becoming an online marketer on some level. So with that, I can say that Wealthy Affiliate IS the best deal on the internet to get you where you want to be – hands down!
I would like you to read the review of Wealthy Affiliate first though. After you see what it is and what it has to offer, you will no doubt see the beauty in this program. And you can always leave me a message and I will be glad to respond to your comments. I am going to take this one step further though. Yes, I would like you to join me.
I would like for you to think about all the things I have said here more.
Ponder this discussion. Look at your life. Figure out if there is anything you could do to make your life better, your outlook better, your situation better through thinking outside the box and moving away from ‘normal‘.
Regardless of whether you join Wealthy Affiliate or not, I hope the information on this website gives you much to think about, information you can apply to your life. Mostly, I hope you find what you are looking for and that it brings joy, good health, and prosperity for you and those you love and care for.
Coming from the place in life I came from, and knowing that the world has a way of keeping us ‘little folk’ down, I want this site to inspire everyone that comes here. I want it to be a moving forward point for growth, for happiness and for success.
So, on that note, I will bid you well. Please, have a look around. I hope you decide to join Wealthy Affiliate if you are looking to become a success on the internet. It is certainly all the right tools to get you there. If you choose to not join, I hope you become a success at whatever you decide to do.
Check it out here and please, leave me a note about your visit, suggestions, inspirations or just to say hi.